Every celebrity has one message they would like to unsend. For Doja Cat it was a short note to a teenager asking whether his co-star was single, and the teenager posted it. In July 2022 that note turned into a week-long internet argument; two years later it turned into a London date night; by 2026 it has become the most famous slide into the DMs that nobody actually sent.
Here is the whole thing in order, with the parts that are confirmed kept apart from the parts that are just tabloid weather.
The DM that went public
In the summer of 2022 the fourth season of Stranger Things made the whole planet fall for Eddie Munson, the metal-loving outcast played by Joseph Quinn, then 29. Doja Cat was not immune. Instead of messaging Quinn, she wrote to his 17-year-old co-star Noah Schnapp, asking him to pass the interest along and wondering whether Quinn had a girlfriend. Schnapp answered “Lmao slide into his DMs,” sent her Quinn’s Instagram profile, and then put the screenshots in a TikTok. The video was later deleted, which on the internet means it was saved by everyone.
My read: the request itself was perfectly normal. Asking a mutual friend is how half the couples I know started. The problem was the audience, not the crush.
Instagram Live, “snake” and the apology
Doja Cat answered on Instagram Live. She said she “didn’t feel comfortable” with the conversation being made public and called it “borderline snake s–t” and “weasel s–t,” while adding that she was trying to be fair to a young person who makes mistakes. The fans who had been cheering the matchmaking turned on her for being harsh to a teenager, and the analytics followed: according to data cited by the Los Angeles Times, she lost about 200,000 Instagram followers, while Schnapp gained nearly a million on Instagram and around three million on TikTok.
Schnapp then did the sensible thing. He told Variety: “I’m super unserious on social media and pretty goofy, so I posted that not thinking too much of it, but obviously it hurt her feelings.” He said he apologized, that she was “totally OK with it” and apologized for how she reacted. Both of them handled the cleanup better than the internet handled the mess, which is rarer than it should be.
A pattern, briefly: the “i quit” spring of 2022
The DM week was not her first clash with her own fans that year. In March 2022 her set at the Asunciónico festival in Paraguay was cancelled because of severe weather. Fans who had waited outside her hotel complained, and when she later thanked the crowd in Brazil without mentioning Paraguay, the complaints got louder. Doja replied by changing her Twitter display name to “i quit” (later “i quit still”) and posting that she was not taking pictures with fans.
She did not quit. She went on to release Scarlet in 2023 and Vie on September 26, 2025, and in 2026 she is on the Tour Ma Vie World Tour, her biggest run so far, which played Rogers Arena in Vancouver on October 13 and ends at Madison Square Garden on December 1. I have learned to read her online exits the way I read “last call” at a party: a mood, not a schedule.
For the record, her biggest hit of that era came with Nicki Minaj: the remix of “Say So” became the first No. 1 on the Billboard Hot 100 for both of them in May 2020.
Plot twist: the crush worked
In August 2024, two years after the screenshots, Doja Cat and Joseph Quinn were photographed together in Camden, London, including at the venue Dingwalls, and the old TikTok became a punchline with a happy ending. Neither of them issued a statement, but they were seen together repeatedly that summer and autumn. In September 2024 she shut down engagement talk herself in a since-deleted post: “no, im not engaged its a David Yurman ring with no rocks in it.”
Quinn, meanwhile, became a very busy man: after Eddie Munson came Johnny Storm in Marvel’s The Fantastic Four: First Steps in July 2025. Stranger Things, the show that started all this, has since wrapped its final season.
Where they stand in 2026
This is where the receipts thin out. In 2025 British tabloids, led by The Sun, reported a breakup, a Raya profile and new dates for Quinn, first with model Amelia Zerbe and later with singer Grace Stephenson. All of those reports rest on unnamed sources and photos; none of the people involved has confirmed anything. Doja Cat’s only on-record comment came in a New York Times interview published in September 2025: asked about Quinn, she said she was “just having fun” and “allowing things to happen,” and added that she loves “bullying men.” She did not name him.
So the honest status is: no confirmed relationship, no confirmed breakup, and a singer who has made a career of not explaining herself on anyone else’s schedule.
I keep coming back to that first message. It was a small, slightly awkward, completely human thing to send, and it cost her 200,000 followers and two years of jokes before it got her the date. Whatever is happening now, Doja Cat has already won the argument she lost in 2022: asking was never the embarrassing part.
Sources
- Doja Cat on Instagram, autumn 2026
- Noah Schnapp on Instagram (@noahschnapp)
- Doja Cat on Instagram (@dojacat)
- Doja Cat, “Say So” ft. Nicki Minaj, official lyric video (dojacatVEVO)
- ET: Doja Cat calls out Noah Schnapp for sharing her DMs on TikTok
- ET: Noah Schnapp and Doja Cat are “all good” after feud (follower data via Los Angeles Times)
- Noah Schnapp explains his apology to Variety
- Complex: Doja Cat tells fans “i quit” after the cancelled Paraguay set
- Capital XTRA: Doja Cat and Joseph Quinn spotted in London, August 2024
- Bustle: Doja Cat on Joseph Quinn in The New York Times, September 2025
- Yahoo / RealityTea, citing The Sun: Joseph Quinn reportedly moved on (anonymous sources)
- Live Nation: Tour Ma Vie World Tour 2026 dates
